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Writer's pictureBrooklyn Dieterle

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES AND HOW THEY APPLY TO YOUR LIFE & RELATIONSHIPS

Happy Monday and happy Valentine’s Day, the day of love. Since it is the day of love, it seemed only fit to do a blog post around LOVE! So, today’s blog post is about the 5 love languages: Words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and physical touch. The idea of 5 love languages was created by Gary Chapman, who has a book on this if you are interested in learning a more in depth perspective and information on them. These 5 love languages have an impact on relationships. Because of this, it is so incredibly important to know what each of these love languages are and how they apply to your life. Today we will be going over what these 5 love languages are, mean, and how they apply to you and your relationships. This information can be helpful for current relationships, future relationships, friendships, and even a relationship with yourself.

WHAT EACH ONE IS AND MEANS

  1. Words of Affirmation: Words of affirmation are words that show your love for another. This is positive words, affirmative words, and uplifting words, reassuring words. With words of affirmation, love is express through positive words, notes, phone calls, ect...

  2. Quality Time: Quality time is spending time together to show your love for someone. This could be shown in having undivided attention while with someone or wanting to spend your extra time with them to show your love for them.

  3. Acts of Services: Acts of service is helping out as much as one can to show their love for someone. This might be cooking dinner, helping you accomplish something, community service, to show love for someone of something.

  4. Receiving Gifts: Receiving gifts is well, receiving gifts. This is a physical or material way of showing love. This love language shows love with tangible items. They want to receive these tangible items and that makes them feel loved.

  5. Physical Touch: People with a love language of physical touch, show their love with non-sexual touch. Love will be shown through hugs, hand holding, or massages.


SHOWING YOURSELF LOVE WITH EACH LOVE LANGUAGE

  1. Words of Affirmation: For those that have the love language to show yourself love, journal, write yourself affirmations and notes, write notes on the mirror that are uplifting, or try meditation.

  2. Quality Time: For those that have the love language make time for yourself by going out in nature, taking a bath, reading a book, watching a movie, a self-date, or journaling.

  3. Acts of Services: For those that have the love language do things on your to-do list, donate old clothes, do community service, or clean your room or your living space.

  4. Receiving Gifts: For those that have the love language give yourself little gifts like flowers, food, or something to try a hobby or make a craft.

  5. Physical Touch: For those that have the love language give yourself a bath, make a skincare routine to take care of yourself, use a dry brush, or do yoga.


SHOWING YOUR LOVE TO SOMEONE WITH EACH LOVE LANGUAGE

  1. Words of Affirmation: For those with someone with words of affirmation as a love language, give them letters, tell them how much you love them, give them compliments, and "brag" about them. If you need to make up after conflict, try things like a good talk or an apology. Avoid non-constructive criticism and failure to communicate.

  2. Quality Time: For those with someone with quality time as a love language, go on date nights, have long in-depth conversation, or spend time without phones or electronics. If you need to resolve conflict, try having a long talk without distractions to give them undivided attention. Avoid hanging out with someone else over hanging out with your loved one.

  3. Acts of Services: For those with someone with acts of service as a love language you can cook for them, do their laundry, or help with other chores. If there is conflict, try to offer help with responsibilities or make changes in your behavior.

  4. Receiving Gifts: For those with someone with receiving gifts as a love language, give them material gift and make each holiday special (birthdays, anniversaries, ect...). If you are trying to resolve conflict, try giving them a meaningful gift that represents your love for them.

  5. Physical Touch: For those with someone with physical touch as a love language, give them long hugs, cuddling, hand holding or kissing. If there is conflict, try a long, tight hug to show your love for them. Avoid being overly happy by a materialistic gift.

Have a wonderful Valentine's Day!





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